“I honestly find the battle very hard. The mental loading women take on is so much and we never give ourselves enough credit for it. There’s always a struggle where I find myself feeling guilty for not having enough quality time with Bella, or then being behind with work, or only being able to give things half the attention they deserve but it’s getting more manageable as I go on. I just take each day as it comes and I am so lucky that I am surrounded by such a great support team, I don’t know what I’d do without them.”
Talk us through your morning - what happens once everyone is awake?
I am actually the luckiest girl in the world and I manage to start most mornings with my fabulous partner greeting me with coffee in bed. A dream start to the day is then usually followed by a manic scramble to clean up the mess from Cyclone Bella that she managed to make in the two minutes before bed the previous night and chasing her in circles around the house. That is then followed by a surf check for dad and mum quickly opening her emails as we are two hours behind the world on the east coast so I have to play catch up in my office. Then I pack a quick day bag and we’re out the door, either to the beach or the park.
What has motherhood taught you so far?
Motherhood has given me a whole new love and respect for women. I have learnt how resilient we are and how powerful we can be. I think we have this super-power installed into us which helps us become the best mix of being empathetic yet strong at the same time. It has also taught me to let go of things that don’t matter. To really live in the present and enjoy every single moment for what it is. To enjoy the silent moments in the morning where there are no distractions, just the three of us (Bella, Taj and I) in bed with no entertainment other than laughing at each other’s funny faces and playing hide and seek behind the blankets.
How do you handle the more challenging parts of being a mum?
When I am feeling most stressed, I need to notice these patterns occurring and take a second to stop and take a breath. It is so easy to become overwhelmed with it all, but when you take a second to look at it all your time becomes more manageable. I am such a list person, it helps me achieve my goals without getting sidetracked, then I can get everything done on time and it makes room for quality family time. Having a toddler is challenging, sooooo challenging. You need to learn to laugh at things. At the end of the day, we all manage to get through it. Whether we lean on help around us or even find some solace in another mum who is going through the same struggles that we are, or if we have to have an extra big glass of wine at the end of the day, we somehow do it!